Single? A Mother’s Letter to Her Children About Marriage

Marriage as in institution is one of the most respected but recent happenings make it seem a college you enter and redraw just when you feel like. Read a mother’s letter to her children.

Dear Children,

Should the Lord give you the good gift of a husband or wife, and I hope He does, there are a few things I want you to know. Things that you may not hear from anyone else, and certainly not on TV or other media. Sadly,… your church may not even tell you.

Marriage, sweet little people, is not for the purpose of your happiness only. Happy as I want you to be and hope you will be, you must yet understand that marriage is God’s design and His purposes must be pursued in order for you to be truly happy. His end is holiness and He will use all things in a life devoted to Him to fulfill that end. marriagewhiterings

To my girls:

Marry a man whose first pursuit is CHRIST. After that, he is not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a place where he and your children will always love to be.




You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try again. Above all else, make a home.

To my boys:

Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, she may be hard to please only if you don’t know “the secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured. You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers, maybe even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask: “What’s on your mind these days? “And then be ready to listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive this as your protection over the matters of her heart. Tenderness, listening, protection and good communication. That’s what she wants.

To you all:

NO ONE IS PERFECT..Yes, u heard me right…in marriage, we try to see an imperfect person perfect but in reality… your husband or wife has flaws…Flaws u will start noticing right after marrying them…Such is life. If you arm yourself with this thought, u will learn to live with them..Those you see married for over 20 to 30 yrs have just learned to ignore and live with their partners flaws…THAT’S A SECRET AM SHARING WITH YOU…If your wife or husband does something really stupid, forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on the strengths; push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take every thought captive–choose to love.

HERE IS THE PART YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HEAR OFTEN:

If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction, disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think about a divorce. Ask those who are married, it’s not always as smooth as it looks… There will definitely be quarrels, fights and if you find yourselves arguing more and more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be better off out of this”, because they won’t.. Ask those who grew under the care of a single parent how things are…

NOW TO THE VOWS…

The vows you took on your wedding day were not suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, DONT GET MARRIED… Decide up front that your marriage is irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along if your “marriage house” has no door to u..
Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of the opposite sex….

Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple families for many generations. When you “separate what God has joined” you permanently injure far more than just yourself.

Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only family you’ve got”.
I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy.

Proverbs 19:14 – “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.”

Proverbs 20:6-7 – “Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.”

Remember, the wedding ring is the smallest handcuff so chose your prison partner carefully cos there is no turning back…

God bless you saints…

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