Most guys will be comfortable directing you on how to please them in the bedroom. What they won’t do is comment on all the weird habits you have that aren’t directly related to intercourse, but that still manage to turn them off. And since men won’t tell you that it’s weird, we will. Here are 14 odd behaviors women have during sex.
Answering a text
There is a double standard here. If a man answers a text at any point during sex—the initial making out, the 4-play, mid-coitus, or within ten minutes after completion—it’s considered very offensive. The woman immediately feels that she’s just being used for sex, and doesn’t deserve any respect. But then, most women will reach for that phone if it beeps during 4-play or right after completion (rarely during actual intercourse—we’re not that cold!) and think nothing of it.
Acting like a professional masseuse
“Is that pressure too much? Is it too warm in here? Higher? Lower?” Speaking in just one octave too high can totally pull your guy out of the mood, and make him feel like you see this sexual encounter as a job. You just want to get it done, and do it well. When asking for any direction, for goodness sake ask in a sensual voice.
Mentioning anyone else…at all
Don’t mention that your best friend’s boyfriend does this thing to her that she really likes in bed. Don’t mention a funny sexual anecdote of your own from a past partner. Don’t mention other people! There’s a very particular mindset a person has to be in to have sex, and usually picturing other people—sexually or not—pulls them out of that mindset. Save your gossiping for later.
Keeping eye contact
Do you want to know what most men think if you insist on keeping eye contact with them the entire time you’re having sex? “Uh oh. She is going to cling to me until the end of time after this.” Be natural. Let your eyes wander. Close them. Bite him. Lash your head back. Don’t make your guy think you’re trying to see into his soul.
Avoiding eye contact
Some women have the opposite problem when it comes to eye contact and feel it’s too emotionally intimate. But men need a little eye contact to know that you’re still into things. If you’re flailing your head around in every direction besides his face, he’ll likely think you regret letting him have sex with you. And now you’re trying to pretend it’s not happening.
Some women need to kiss the entire time they’re having sex. Even in positions in which it makes no sense to kiss, they will twist their head, crank their neck, or bend over to be sure those lips are locked. It’s okay to not have that happening the entire time. It doesn’t mean the encounter is purely carnal or the guy’s just using you for sex. It just means he’s paying attention to other sensations right now.