In my very typical solemn moments, my mind takes me on several thought journeys and on one of such journey’s was the thought of the alarming rate at which countless young marriages are being torn apart.
At first, I asked, why must I be bothered but I later realized I had the power to influence a few so the need to share.
In my line of duty as a broadcaster, I’ve had to MC several weddings and been present at others too and one thing seems to run through, competition!!
Well, I never knew weddings were a competition until a friend told me he wanted his wedding to be bigger than the previous wedding we both attended. Really? Has it gotten to this? (I asked myself)
Off late, it seems the focus of the younger generation has centred on the pageantry and elegance of the wedding than the real essence of marriages.
Would you believe how much time and dedication majority of young folks commit to the planning and execution of the weddings forgetting the real deal, marriage?
Yes, people are pressured into having huge and extravagant weddings just for social validation and belonging and I wonder why any right thinking individual will do that just because of what others will say or think.
Well, I remember sharing a post on Facebook about how a lot of people are most interested in the weddings than the long lasting marriage and it seems I was not alone in my thought journey per the comments that were shared.
Okyeame Kwame (Ghanaian rapper) from one of his songs said “The beauty of your marriage is not dependent on your wedding” and true to this, he has one of the most adored families most millennial wishes to have and praise all the time on social media but with very little buzz about his wedding ceremony.
Note, my post is not to condemn the pageantry, expense and dedication associated with most weddings we see. My wish is to see young people prepare themselves adequately and understand the journey they are about to embark on.
Yes, our parents had the most modest weddings, understood what they were entering and lived for several years. They had their own problems but I’m sure what we witness today is on super fast lane. If we really understood the real meaning of marriage, what we are experiencing today would perhaps be on the decline.
I’m no counselor but once again, remember, the beauty of your wedding is not dependent on your wedding…
Let not peer pressure push into the same ditch. Many are suffering in their homes but share different stories via social media. Perhaps, Tontoh Dikeh’s recent issues be a lesson.
Ever witnessed such a situation? Well, share your experiences with me.
If you wish to listen the song, search for White Wedding by Okyeame Kwame featuring Efya.