Yvonne Nelson talks pregnancy, her man and finding complete happiness with her baby girl.
I walked into the studio and that’s when it hit me, that body of work was gone. Yvonne, who is never afraid to throw down her cloths and strut in bikini’s all day, was sitting there getting her makeup done with a huge baby bump. She breaks into a smile and then screams as she sees me, we are hugging, and my hand was rubbing on her bump, giddy as a child and just incredibly happy.
“It feels like a minute ago I was on the beach relaxing in my size 4 figure,” she says laughing “Its so humbling knowing that I am about to become a mother, Julie you are about to become an auntie,” screams the actress who had an amazing glow.
Yvonne was clearly very happy or maybe she was particularly in a great mood “Guess the best part Jules, I can eat whatever I want without worrying my tummy would protrude, its already very big,” and she broke out laughing, loudly joined by everyone in the studio.
I waited till we were on the beach, one of her favorite places to be before I snatched her to a corner and bombarded her with questions, I had waited for too long.”Just yesterday I went online admiring my bikini WOW cover and thought just how nice it would be to do a remake by the poolside but this time around with the bump but my Mum would kill me,” she laughs.
Okay talking about mum, how does she feel about the pregnancy?
“My mum, she used to be so big on marriage, she was very traditional, marriage then baby, until I got pregnant, its like everything changed, I guess your priority obviously changes to something else. She is now more concerned about the Baby.” She brushes a strand of hair out of her eyes.
“She doesn’t pressure me anymore with marriage you know, like its not like I am engaged or married or anything, it’s just that when it happens, it happens. As a woman you cannot marry yourself.”
So you are not like a traditional girl that would rather be married before a child
“I believe if I say that, people might say I am not setting a good example, but I think society is just too hard on most of us. The fact is she adds, “Its good to get married, it’s the right thing to do, but then again if you are a woman and you think you are getting to a certain age and you want to have kids and you meet a responsible guy who hasn’t yet proposed but wants to do the same thing, it depends on you and him.
You can go ahead and do it, if u think the guy is right and responsible and he makes you happy, why not?” Marriage nowadays is just ceremony and a huge wedding. The whole marriage thing, that name is just so scary.”
I wondered if the pregnancy was planned, “It was and the truth of the matter is, it’s been something that I have been waiting for since I turned 29.” With a grin on her face she continued, “On my 30th Birthday I was in Venice in Italy. I remember the night before my Birthday, I called my mum and I was crying, I cried, I was so sad, I was seeing someone else then and he was an ideal guy and everything. He took me there for my birthday and he proposed,” looking up to the clear blue sky, almost shy, “but I didn’t put it online, I’m not one of those people that would make a lot of noise on stuffs like that.” She began to caress her bump, “He is somebody I would have loved to have a family with but then he wanted me to move to London.”
Rolling her eyes, “My whole life was going to change because of him and its not something you should do, you don’t have to change your whole life because of a man because of your marriage. I am sure most people do, so in the long run it didn’t workout and although I had been praying for a man like that. I had nothing I was doing in the UK, so I decided that I just had to chill, maybe see what the future holds and keep praying for someone else to come around.” The she starts laughing so hard, “Its quite funny because someone proposed and I didn’t even get to have a baby for the person and then this person who hasn’t proposed I’m having a baby for him, so it’s a vibe, it’s friendship, its understanding, its how happy the person makes you, its not about someone putting a rock on your finger and you forget.”
I was curious to know her reaction when she first knew she was pregnant “I wasn’t sure but I suspected I was. I was in London at the time with my man. I was so ready I knew this was what I wanted at this moment in my life. I pray to God all the time and I tell Him that I want to start a family and have kids of my own, it was part of my prayers so I just knew that I’m not married but this is what I want to do. So when I did a test and it came out positive, I was truly happy.” But the hard part was having to tell my mum, she said wide eyed, almost like she was still afraid. “I waited for my mum she had just returned from a trip, I remember telling her I was pregnant and she was so shocked and her first words were but you are not married and I replied her back yes mum I know and then it was a long conversation.” Yvonne credits her mum for being so supportive through her pregnancy “right now she is just so happy and so am I.”
As the crew set up on the beach, we took a short walk on the beach, soaking our legs in the water as we chatted some more. “It’s a girl you know, she continued, and her dad is very excited too.” He is not a first time dad, but he is super happy and very supportive. He is British and such a great person, I admire how amazing he is with kids and I respect him for that.” She suddenly has a smile on her face that seemed permanent, “He takes very great care of me.”
I wonder what I would do first if I fall pregnant, “I was so paranoid because I don’t think I have been to the hospital ever, but I got pregnant and I had go to the hospital like every 2 weeks, you know all these different test one must undergo and its scary you know because its your first time. You just don’t know what to expect. People don’t tell you these things.” She laughs “And from the fifth month I began to hide, when I’m buying something from a store an attendant would come over to the car and attend to me. I have been doing stuffs my self, I stopped attending events, I sometimes cook myself and all that but I still produced and done some other stuff, I don’t have a House help so I get to do something’s myself but seeing the baby bump, the new mum got emotional, “That day it was just everything. I have just been appreciating God the entire time because you can feel something moving in there of course you cannot see the baby but you can feel it. That alone is just a miracle you know aside that it hasn’t been an exciting time because its not easy, I always say wow you guys should have told me how pregnancy is and often they would tell you to sleep on your left side and you cant and you eventually have to sleep on your right side.” Laughs, “My pregnancy has been in-between, I have had some down times.” She needs a drink so we walk back to set and she continues, “I knew I would be needing my family around as its my first time, that’s why I decided to stay back in Ghana, I would have been so hard without my family.”
She gets a cold malt drink and I wanted to know if she and her man were talking marriage in the future, “Marriage is scary but off course I would love to have my child to have a Dad around. We would have to have the ideal family setting. As I said I cant marry myself some one would have to marry me off course. So yeah when it happens I will be glad. I don’t want to put pressure on anyone.”
Interview kindest courtesy WOW Magazine.
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